Do you ever feel like finding a legitimate Dom or sub is nearly impossible?

I get it.

I've taught hundreds of kinksters who've been stuck in the same spot.

But guess what?

There's a way... a step-by-step process... to finally get the partner you want.

Here's what you'll learn in this course:

A breakdown on how to attract your ideal partner

Why NOW is the best time to connect with your local kink community

Insider tips for the best dating apps to use

The super-easy way to let someone know you're into kink

A step-by-step action plan for properly vetting a Dom or sub

And so much more...

Any of this sound like you...?

  • You've been doing this Dom/sub thing for awhile now, but you're having trouble finding someone a long-term relationship.

  • Or maybe you're brand new, and you know having a partner will help you progress... but how do you even get started?

  • You've met some people in the BDSM community... but maybe they're only interested in sex or money, or you're too shy to go any further.

  • You know you should be attending groups and meetups... but you're not sure where to look – and you're too busy to make it a priority.

  • You see other happy D/s couples living kinky lives... and you wonder, "How did they even find each other???"

Ready to stop being a single Dom or sub?

Then I have just the thing for you!



Here's what's included:

🔥 90+ minutes of video lessons with detailed notes and transcripts

🔥 Downloadable workbook so you can immediately put into practice what you're learning

🔥 Q&A library

🔥 Lifetime access + free updates to the course

⭐️ Plus these special BONUSES ⭐️

  • An exclusive rundown of the dating apps I use in real life
  • A dating app lingo cheatsheet so you can stop being confused by people's bios
  • 18+ helpful links & insider resources for finding real partners, fast

"I finally found a Dom! We've been seeing each other for 3 months now, and I know I owe it all to you. Your wisdom and support have been invaluable. I cannot thank you enough!"

– Laura


Hi! I'm your instructor, Alesandra.

I help Doms and subs create the life they truly want. As a professional BDSM instructor and relationship coach I've taught more than 2,000 students how to start and grow their Dom/sub relationships.

So even if you’re new to BDSM or have been struggling to find a partner for years, this course will become your step-by-step system for helping you discover a satisfying relationship.

"I spent a handful of confusing months reading D/s blogs, BDSM Reddit posts, and watching Youtube videos, but never felt like I knew how to get started when it came to D/s relationships. Alesandra breaks down the process. She makes it insanely easy to understand!"

– Peter

❓Frequently Asked Questions

We want to find a third partner, aka a "unicorn", will the course help us?

Absolutely! Many of my tips also work for polyamorous couples who are looking for either a short-term or long-term partner.

Is this training for me if I have a partner already, but they're vanilla?

If you'd like to help your current partner be more dominant, submissive, or kinky, check out this workshop instead.

What if I'm... older, a male sub, a female Domme, a switch, into ageplay, or [insert your unique situation]?

I've helped hundreds of people in the BDSM community find a partner, even when they thought there was no one out there for them. Apply my 4 steps to your life and you can be successful no matter who you are or what you're looking for.

Are your videos captioned or transcribed?

Yes. All videos have closed captioning, and transcripts are also available for the main training.

I have one more question before I sign up.

No problem! Just send me a message using the chat box at the bottom right corner of this page and I will get back to you.

Ready to finally find your perfect BDSM partner?

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